A private dating journal
You already know. Spilled helps you trust it.
Log what actually happens with the person you are seeing. Spilled reads between the lines, tracks the patterns, and gives you real reads on what you are watching. Like a wise friend who has been there the whole time.
7-day free trial on Pro. iOS only for now.
The moment that changes everything
Tap a pattern. Get a real read.
Hot and cold cycles
You are logging two totally different people. One shows up with flowers and remembers your anniversary. The other goes silent for days and cancels so often you have logged it four times in two weeks.
He pulls back. You feel it. Then he comes through with something sweet right when the distance gets loud enough. And it works.
What if you trusted what you have been seeing?
Sample read. Yours will be personalized to what you actually logged.
Made for modern dating
The journal for what happens after the match
You met him on a dating app. The conversation moved to text. The first date felt great. The second one got cancelled. Now you are three weeks in, trying to figure out if this is something or nothing.
Spilled is the journal you wished you had between dates. Use it alongside the apps you already use. Log what actually happens, not the highlight reel.
Spilled does the pattern-watching so you do not have to.
How it works
Log what actually happened
Type it like you would in your group chat. "He cancelled 30 minutes before." "Surprised me with flowers." "Left me on read for two days." Tap the tags that fit, or with Pro, let Spilled read your entry and tag it for you.
Watch the patterns surface
A consistency score from 0 to 100. Flags for breadcrumbing, high cancellation rate, hot and cold cycles, broken promises. Math on what you logged, not guesswork.
Tap a pattern and get the read
A personalized written read on what your data is showing. Specific to your situation, grounded in your own entries. Like a wise friend telling you what she sees.
The data that backs every read
Every read is built from your actual entries. One score. Real flags. Math you can see.
Consistency score
59
/100
The pattern is mixed. Pay attention to what is happening.
From 13 entries in the last 30 days
Daniel
Worth paying attention to
High cancellation rate
Plans get cancelled more often than they happen.
7 of 11 plans cancelled, 64%
Hot and cold cycles
His behavior swings between attentive and distant.
5 mood swings across 13 entries
A glimpse of the connection screen and Patterns tab. Yours stays private.
Spilled Pro
The full picture
Free gets you started. Pro is where the depth lives.
Live personalized reads
Tap any pattern to get a real written analysis of your specific situation. The biggest feature in Pro.
Smart tagging
Tap a button and Spilled reads your entry and applies tags automatically. Free users tap chips manually, which works just as well.
Score trend over time
Watch how each connection has shifted across every entry you have logged. The line chart that tells the real story.
Compare connections
See all your active connections ranked side by side. Who shows up. Who does not.
Deep community stats
Anonymous patterns from other women using Spilled. See you are not the only one.
Smart check-in reminders
Nudges to log when patterns suggest you should be paying attention.
Your entries are yours
Your journal lives on your phone. When you tap the Read button on an entry, the text is sent to a third-party language service to tag it, then immediately discarded. We never store entries on our servers.
The people you log about cannot find, search, or access anything in Spilled. Even if they download the app, your data is invisible to them.
Anonymous pattern signals (which flag fired, what zone) help us power the community insights. No names. No entry text. Opt out anytime.
Pricing
Free
$0
forever
- Unlimited connections
- Unlimited entries
- Manual tag picking
- Consistency score with zones
- Basic pattern flags
- Score time filter (7d, 30d, 90d, all)
Pro
$9.99/month
or $49.99/year, save 58%
7-day free trial on both plans
- Everything in Free
- Smart tagging (Spilled tags entries for you)
- Live personalized pattern reads
- Score trend chart
- Multi-connection comparison
- Full timeline with filters
- Deep community insights
- Shareable anonymous export
- Smart check-in reminders
Questions, answered
Will he ever see this?
No. Your journal lives on your phone. He cannot find, search, or access anything in Spilled. Even if he downloads the app, he has no way to see your entries.
How does the tagging and reading work?
When you log an entry, you tap a Read button to send it to a third-party language service that identifies the tags (cancellation, effort, ghosted, etc.) and then discards the text. You can also tag manually if you prefer. Pro users can tap any pattern flag to get a personalized written read on what their data is showing.
What does the score mean?
It is the ratio of positive to negative entries, with recent entries weighted heavier. Green is 70 and above. Yellow is 40 to 69. Red is below 40. The score shows from your first entry and updates with every entry you add. You can filter by 7 days, 30 days, 90 days, or all time.
Can I cancel anytime?
Yes. Both Pro plans come with a 7-day free trial. Cancel anytime in your Apple ID settings. No charges if you cancel during the trial.
Does Spilled work with dating apps?
Yes. Spilled is meant to be used alongside Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, or any dating app. You match on those, then track what actually happens here. The apps get you the matches. Spilled helps you read the patterns once you are talking, dating, or in a situationship.
What if I get a new phone?
Sign in with the same Apple ID on the new phone and your account is restored. Your journal entries live on your phone, so use the backup feature in the Account tab to save a copy you can restore on the new device. See the Help center for the steps.
Can I name a real person?
The name field is just for you. Nothing you type is ever shared. Shareable exports strip names automatically.
Explore by topic
Guides for the specific patterns Spilled is built to read.
Track a guy you met on Hinge
For what happens after the match.
Is he breadcrumbing me?
Let the data answer for you.
Situationship tracker
Stop guessing what this is.
Ghosting tracker
Catch the silence pattern.
Love bombing tracker
Both halves of the pattern.
Floodlighting tracker
Fast-track intimacy, decoded.
Hinge red flags
Spot patterns early.
Bumble breadcrumbing
When the chat is on but the plans never happen.
Tinder situationship
Read what this actually is.
Dating journal app
The full overview.
Trust what you have been seeing
7-day free trial on Pro. Cancel anytime.
Questions or feedback?
Email us anytime. We typically reply within one business day.
spilled@appsthathelp.com